Dear Younger Me,
I know you’re scared.
Right now, you’re trying to process the news that you’re going to be a mom. Your mind is racing, you’re nervous about the unknown, and you’re wondering if you’re truly ready for this journey. Those feelings are normal.
Soon, that fear will turn into excitement. You’ll begin dreaming about the future and praying for a little boy. God will hear your prayers and bless you with a son. You’ll be overjoyed when you find out you’re having a boy because you’ve always said you’re a boy at heart. You’ll picture yourself sitting in the stands cheering at football games, celebrating touchdowns, and being the loudest sports mom there.
But life will have different plans.
The day your son is born, everything you imagined about motherhood will change. He will enter this world with significant medical challenges, and suddenly football games, trophies, and all the dreams you had while pregnant won’t matter anymore. Your only prayer will become, “God, please let my son be okay.”
Motherhood will teach you that sometimes the greatest victories aren’t scored on a football field. Sometimes they’re measured in hospital discharges, answered prayers, milestones that doctors weren’t sure would happen, and simply making it through another day.
Then, you’ll find out you’re expecting again.
Life will already be busy caring for your son, but you’ll secretly hope for a little girl. Once again, God will answer your prayer. Your daughter will become one of your greatest blessings. She’ll bring a different kind of joy into your life and remind you that even after difficult seasons, beautiful things can still grow.
And then, when you least expect it, God will bless you with another child—not one you gave birth to, but one you’ll love as if you did. That journey won’t be easy either.
Being a bonus mom will come with its own challenges, moments of uncertainty, and times when you’ll wonder if you’re doing enough. But every single day with her will be worth it. You’ll love her fiercely, pray for her endlessly, celebrate her victories, comfort her through disappointments, and show up for her in every way you can. You may not have carried her beneath your heart, but you’ll carry her within it every single day.
More than anything, you’ll hope she always knows just how deeply she’s loved. That she knows your love for her is real, unconditional, and unwavering. You’ll want her to know that you pray for her, cheer for her, protect her, and love her just as much as your own. Because motherhood isn’t defined only by birth. It’s defined by love, sacrifice, presence, and the choice to show up every single day.
There are a few things I need you to know.
Don’t listen to everyone else’s opinions about your life, your children, or the choices you make as their mother. People will always have something to say, but they aren’t living your life. They don’t know the prayers you’ve prayed, the tears you’ve cried, or the sacrifices you’ve made behind closed doors.
Trust yourself. Trust God.
And don’t ever let anyone make you believe that because you became a mother at a young age, you aren’t capable of being exactly the mother your children need.
You are.
You will spend years advocating, learning, sacrificing, celebrating the smallest victories, and loving your children with everything you have. There will be days that leave you exhausted, broken, and wondering if you’re doing enough.
You are.
There will be moments when life feels unbearably heavy, but there will also be moments that take your breath away. Moments that remind you why you never gave up.
One day, you’ll look at your children and realize just how far you’ve all come.
The little boy you prayed so hard for will become your greatest teacher. He will change your perspective on life, redefine success, and show you what unconditional love truly looks like.
Your daughter will grow into a beautiful young woman who continues to make you proud.
Your bonus daughter will remind you that love has no limits. She will teach you that family isn’t only about biology—it’s about showing up, choosing each other, and loving without conditions.
And you? You’ll become stronger than you ever imagined.
So, keep going.
Keep praying.
Keep believing.
Because although this journey won’t look anything like you expected, it will become more beautiful, more meaningful, and more purposeful than you could have ever planned.
One day you’ll realize that all those years ago, you weren’t just becoming a mom. You were becoming the woman God was preparing you to be.
With love,
The Mother You Become
